10 things we’ve learned in 10 years of planning weddings
You’re engaged — congratulations! This is such an exciting time. As you begin to dream up your celebration, it’s easy to feel both inspired and overwhelmed by the choices ahead. After 10 years of planning weddings of all styles and sizes, we’ve seen what truly matters — and what doesn’t — when it comes to creating an unforgettable experience.
From guest lists to vendor partnerships, here are our top 10 lessons learned over a decade of bringing dream weddings to life.
1. Take your time with the guest list
Your guest list sets the tone for everything else — from venue capacity to catering and overall atmosphere. This is a day to surround yourselves with people who matter most. A thoughtfully curated guest list creates the kind of intimate, joyful energy that defines a luxury celebration.
2. Every wedding is one-of-a-kind — and pricing reflects that
Luxury weddings are deeply personal, and so are the costs. Every vendor’s proposal takes into account your vision, scale, and custom details. Instead of comparing prices, compare value — the quality, experience, and expertise behind what you’re paying for.
3. Identify your top priorities early
Decide what matters most to you. Is it the floral design, guest experience, or a once-in-a-lifetime setting? Prioritizing key elements allows you to invest where it counts and design a celebration that feels effortlessly intentional.
4. Find a planner whose style fits yours
In the luxury space, your planner is your creative partner — not just your coordinator. Take time to find someone whose process, communication, and aesthetic align with yours. The right planner will not only bring your vision to life but elevate it in ways you didn’t imagine possible.
5. Choose vendors wisely
Luxury service providers are professionals for a reason. Look for vendors who have an established online presence, references, and proper insurance. If a quote feels surprisingly low, that’s often a red flag. Experience and reliability are worth every penny when it comes to peace of mind.
6. Extend grace and flexibility
The best vendor teams are creative professionals working tirelessly during peak seasons. Offering understanding and flexibility during busy months builds mutual respect — and trust goes a long way in ensuring flawless results.
7. Share your excitement and your anxieties
Be open with your planner and vendors about what excites you most — and what worries you. Knowing both allows your team to anticipate potential stress points, manage expectations, and fine-tune the experience so that you can be fully present on your day.
8. Infuse personal meaning into the details
Luxury doesn’t mean impersonal. Quite the opposite — the most unforgettable weddings are deeply personal. Incorporate details that speak to your shared story and personalities, from custom cocktails to meaningful music. True elegance lies in details that feel uniquely yours.
9. Stay selective about outside opinions
Friends and family mean well, but too many conflicting opinions can cloud your decision-making. Take advice only from those who truly know you and your vision. Trust your instincts — and your planning team — to lead you in the right direction.
10. Remember why you’re doing this
Amidst the planning, choices, and design boards, never lose sight of the real purpose: you’re marrying your partner. Every luxurious detail is simply a reflection of that love. Give yourself grace, savor the process, and celebrate the start of your life together.
Final Thoughts
After a decade of producing exceptional weddings, our biggest takeaway is this: luxury isn’t about extravagance, it’s about intention. When every decision is made with meaning, your wedding becomes more than a beautiful event; it becomes an experience that feels authentically you.
About Wanderlust Weddings + Events
At Wanderlust, we’ve spent the past 10 years curating bespoke wedding experiences for couples who value artistry, elegance, and authenticity. Our team believes luxury lies in the details — thoughtful design, elevated experiences, and moments that reflect your unique love story.
Planning your wedding? We’d love to offer you a free consultation to discuss your vision and help you begin the journey toward your dream day. As a special thank-you, mention this blog post to receive 10% off your planning package.
Let’s create something unforgettable — together.
